Showing posts with label Birthday. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Birthday. Show all posts

Monday, January 12, 2009

Pushing his way into the world.

"He's coming out!" I shreiked.
"But we just checked you 15 minutes ago and you were only 3 cm." The labour nurse insisted. But there was no stopping Mitch. He wanted out and that was all there was to it. Within a few minutes of the nurses having conniptions over this rebellious baby that was not supposed to be crowning on the labour room stretcher, no doctor in sight, no equipment ready, and a room filled with spectators (one of which at this point was white as a ghost...anxious over his own wife's delivery any day), I was handed the most beautiful bundle I had ever laid eyes on. I was definitely captivated by his innocence, dependance, fragility...and trust...in me.
He had this black thick hair...believe it or not, with blonde streaks over his ears, and we all chuckled at the black downy hair that lined his shoulders and back. Big blue eyes that you just could get lost in, tiny little fingers and toes, hands and feet...the same feet that just days earlier great grandma and I measured through my abdomen when he kicked out so hard we could see the outline of his foot. All I could do was hold this amazing little creature in my arms and want the rest of the world to disappear. I had to fight off the urge to snatch him back rudely from anyone -especially those pesky nurses- who kept trying to take him from me for one reason or another. I never knew it was possible to love someone so much. I didn't know it at the time, but he was to be the turning point in my life. He became my life and he was, aside from Christ, the greatest and most gracious gift God has ever given me. I loved him with my entire life and being.
It wasn't long before his personality began to shine through either. The poor little man was so eager to get up and move around. He strained so hard to lift his head on his own, and ate with such vigor that he literally ripped me (agonizing!). At eight months old (remember that's only one month older than Leila) he was there at my bedside to greet me as I opened my eyes each morning and Will and I couldn't for the life of us figure out how he was getting out of his crib. So we peeked in his room when he wasn't watching and we discovered for the first time just how strong, enduring, resourceful and bright this boy is as we watched him maneuver his way out of his crib by removing his socks, and using the grip from his bare feet to scale the side of the crib, he then dropped into a laundry hamper on the floor and proceeded to crawl to my room.
...And even now as a teenager (did I sign up for this??)  it has been energy and ambition ever since. Whatever Mitch sets his mind to, he succeeds with flying colours. He certainly is a star.
Celebrating his birthday this year has served as a very refreshing reflection of what a gift he really is. There is so much in this kid that, if we stop to consider, can teach us so much. His spirit, his energy, his spark, his goofiness, his laughter, his determination, his strength, his smarts, his tenderness when nobody's looking, his attention to the little things we miss all the time, his love and concern for his baby sister, his creativity, the way he loves being around people, the way he aims high, and so much more. Even in his worst moments God has used him as a blessing to those who take the time to know his person. He has the ability to bring the best out of you at times, and then at other times he can bring the worst out of you in a way that only he can...but that way you know what's really in your heart. There's no disguising yourself when you're around him for too long, and how can we be anything but thankful to God for revealing the nasty stuff in our hearts?
I can only pray that I can be as much of a blessing to Mitchel as he has been to me. Powerful things are usually hard to handle...but they also make the biggest impact.
Happy Birthday, my baby. I love you!

Saturday, December 27, 2008

Pregnant Fathers

I'm posting another post from Casualties. Not just because this is only like my favorite topic in the whole wide world, not only because of the implications it could have on our death culture, but also because I'm blown away at how our God has put us all together. What I find so huge about this research is that God has designed fathers to be engaged with their children. It's natural. It's unnatural for fathers to be absent or distant. It's against God's design. It also has profound implications for bereaved fathers and/or fathers touched by abortion. Good stuff to reflect on and keep in mind.


In the article Stretch Marks for Dads, Emily Anthes discusses what fatherhood itself does to the male brain and body. I'm curious to know how this plays out when it comes to abortions. The father's brain and body react to the mother's hormones when she delivers the child and so wouldn't the father also react to the hormones of the woman who's had an abortion? It's not like his body would know the difference between a natural birth or an induced birth of a dead child. The woman experiences the same hormonal shifts regardless of the cause of birth or the fate of the child.


So, if it does turn out that abortion and pregnancy does in fact impact the father's brain and body (and it would appear it does), can we women continue to use the slogan "my body my choice"? Wouldn't that be a erroneous statement?

Monday, October 20, 2008

Little Blessings

Rose got a book from her teacher last year, and I assumed it was just something the teacher gave to every student as an end-of-the-year farewell gift, so when I opened it up and looked at the first page, I was suprised to find a little note from her teacher in there.


"Rose, Your actions each day demonstrate what it means to have the love of
Jesus in your heart."
...And that about sums her up.

Today Rose is 11 yrs old. She was my easiest birth, only a few minutes of light hard labour (do those two words cancel each other out?) and when the doctor came in to tell me it was time to start pushing, I didn't believe him.

"Already? I'm not even in any pain."

The next two years made up for the lack of pain though. She nursed *and only nursed* for that entire two years. She wouldn't eat, sleep, or stay with anyone at all.

She was very strong-willed, and still is.
We tried to put her in a crib at two. She got so angry that she bashed her face on the rails until she bled. We took her out of the crib and gave her a regular bed. She got out and bashed her face on the door. Everyone said...

"Don't worry. She won't hurt herself. Kids will stop when it hurts."

But when we went to check on her, she would be sleeping right behind door, with both the back of the door and her little face covered in blood.

I think she hurt herself.

But that's my Rose.























She is so determined that she will allow herself to get hurt in order to acheive her goals. While it can be trying, and it so is, it can also be used for God's glory and I'm counting on that. After all, He did create her with this spirit for a reason. Nothing takes Him by suprise.

At 6 lbs 12oz, she was my very first baby girl. When I introduced her to her uncle, his first observation was,
"She even looks like a girl. Look at her little lips!"
She's my little princess. My little fragrance of heaven on earth. Always concerned for her brothers and sisters, such a huge help to me at home, a gentle and polite spirit, friendly, caring, insightful, thoughtful, and knows how to discern the voice of Jesus.


Now, we just gotta work on the part where she discerns His voice and then listens to Him instead of her own heart and feelings. In good time though. Once we get that determination focused on God...

Gates of hell, ...Look out!


The day ended with Stephanie's beautiful and touching testimony at the Thunder Bay Christian Woman's Club. It was like a breath of fresh air. She spoke in such a way that everyone could relate, and she closed by leaving us to challenge the contents of our hearts, and an earnest prayer for the ladies there. I left there feeling refreshed and ready to apply her words to my own heart before the Lord.

I'll leave you with the picture Stephanie painted for us to refect on...


Throughout the entire day, the sunflower will always seek and turn it's face
towards the sun.

May I be like the sunflower and spend my days seeking the glorious face of the Son, fixing my eyes on Him alone.