Not anti-sex worker,anti-subjugation of women

I am not sure why this woman is latching on to the peripheral issues of the prostitution debate. Do most prostituted women have histories of abuse? Yes. At least, that seems to be the common trend within the population of street workers that I have encountered. The reason these two are linked is because abuse, particularly sexual abuse, has the effect of  'normalizing' oppression - and that's fundamentally what prostitution is. Prostitution is not about sex. It is not sex. And this is where we disagree.

Whereas she believes prostitution can be empowering (this coming from someone who professes to cater to the "high-end" clientele), I believe that if you take the time to really analyze all the dynamics involved you will see the oppressive nature inherent within this institution.

I am not sure why she sputters off all this stuff about rape culture and so forth; this really does not apply to this conversation, namely because I view the women as victims, not criminals. But she is missing the point.

I don't want to re-hash this all out again, so I am just going to post my response to "happy hooker" - my response that really touches on the heart of our disagreement here - and one that she conveniently forgot to address in her video.

I am not talking about abuse; I am talking about oppression. You are happy to subjugate your sexuality under a man for money. In the transactions you encounter in your prostitution your sexuality is restricted to the sexual whims and caprice of the man who has purchased access to your body and sexual acts from you. It is not sex for pay, because it is not truly sex - it is sexual servitude. You consent to sexual servitude.You have no problem with it but it is what it is.

A woman who expresses her sexuality in submission is not necessarily wrong; she is expressing herself on her own terms. But a prostitute normally adapts to whatever the man wants and restricts her own sexual freedom. If it is submission he wants, so be it. If it is aggressiveness he wants, so be it. If it is simply a mouth, or anus, or vagina, or hand to masturbate into, so be it.

Again, if you offer your true sexual expression and desires in exchange for money - whether your expression tends to be submissive or more aggressive, I would not call it oppression. But you said you serve the men what they want, and therein lies your difference.